Truth in dating
28-Dec-2019 22:45
Consider this: for most of human history, only 40% of males who grew to sexual maturity passed on their genes, whereas 80% of women did.
We’re returning to that state, which means that if you’re not a man in that 40%, you’re prospects are pretty fucking grim.
Yes, a woman could still select the highest value man she could find, but she had to marry him, meaning both were off the market.
However, in a society where marriage is merely a voluntary contract that can be broken at anytime for almost any reason, and where sexual freedom is encouraged and accepted, hypergamy runs its natural course. Large numbers of women pursue small numbers of the most attractive, high status men.
I guess what I’m saying is yes, they exist, but they don’t factor into this dynamic, and besides, they’re rarely single for long anyway.
If the imbalance that hypergamy causes weren’t enough, another fuck you comes in the form of society’s inability to adjust to this new paradigm.
We look for the "right person" in bars, at school, at parties, and on Internet dating sites. 60% of marriages end in divorce, and only 1-2% experience the fulfillment both partners once hoped for.
I won’t defend his behavior, because if Grace’s account was even vaguely accurate it sounds like Aziz behaved boorishly — but again, let’s remember, he didn’t force her to do anything, nor did he break any laws, and even she says he apologized once he realized things hadn’t gone well and that she was upset. Because we still view men as having more agency in sexual relationships than women.