Dating someone in a different culture
I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships.
However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers).
Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.
But when you’re surrounded by American media, filled with Barbie dolls, waif skinny models and Baywatch breasts, the idea of what ‘beauty’ is becomes skewed. European men have a quiet confidence, a demeanor that doesn’t need to scream out loud to prove themselves. The dating culture involves trying out many different options at the same time.
They grow up developing friendships with the opposite sex and in turn, develop more empathy and understanding of the opposite sex.
In American culture, there is a clear segregation of the sexes, boys play with boys and do boy things and girls do the same.
Just like no one wants to constantly be compared to their partners ex, they don’t want to be compared to how people do things in your country. You were raised differently and each one is going to have a right way of doing things. By doing this you will be erasing a part of them in a way. And that’s two-fold if you both don’t fluently speak the same native language. You will only push your partner away if you don’t allow them to integrate their culture and traditions into your lives. One thing that you have in common is a love for one another.
It’s going to be frustrating AF in the beginning but be patient. Romance means something different to almost every person in the world. Don’t lose sight of the reason you fell for them in the first place. One of the perks (in my opinion) of falling for someone from a different culture is you get to travel more often.
We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why.