Christian view on dating after divorce
You may feel that the true you is unlovable and seek to change your identity.
It can be so tempting to expand yourself like a pressurized gas let out of a sealed container.
You may be surprised to realize that there are aspects of your ex that you want again or perhaps characteristics that were not important before but are now.
For me, my ex was never a match for me physically (I’m not talking about intimacy here; we were an excellent match in the bedroom).
You may have lost other friends in the deal or had the nature of friendships slip and slide away.
Dating is certainly social, but it should not be the only item on your social calender.
He emphasized the need to progress slowly, pausing along the way like divers coming from the deep.Some expansion and growth is normal and healthy, but make sure that you remain true to yourself and your basic beliefs and values.I started out with a “try anything” approach, but I soon realized that there were “anythings” out there that I had no interest in trying.Once you have your lists generated, keep them handy and allow them to be modified or updated as you date and meet new people. Try to enter every encounter with an open and curious mind, ready to receive the lessons to come.
They are not set in stone, but they are also not be ignored, especially if you find yourself in the biochemical throes of love lust. That insufferably cute and perfect couple at the park is either in the biochemical throws of lust or has another side to their relationship that you do not see. On some dates, you might learn about someone else, some you may learn about yourself, and yet others you may learn about the intricacies of being a private pilot for a billionaire (yup, true story there).If I entered the dating arena with a closed mind, sure of what I liked, I would have never have met those men and learned those lessons.